When the Life Coach Needs Coaching Too

I want to say something out loud that has been sitting heavy in my chest lately.

I have felt like the one who needs coaching.

Not because everything is falling apart. Not because life is in crisis. But because there are seasons when you realize you feel a little off, a little unsteady, and not as grounded as you once were. The kind of season where you are still showing up, still functioning, still helping others, but something inside you is asking for attention.

Lately, I have caught myself thinking that I am the one who needs to pause and re ground.

Life has been changing. Quietly. Relentlessly. And change has a way of humbling you. One moment you feel like you are making progress, and the next it feels like you have been knocked back three steps after finally taking two forward. It messes with your confidence. It makes you question yourself. It makes you wonder if you are doing something wrong.

That tension can be exhausting.

The Myth That Coaches Always Have It Together

There is a quiet assumption we make about people who have training, certifications, or titles. We assume their lives always reflect calm, clarity, and confidence. We assume they must always feel emotionally regulated, spiritually steady, and sure of their next step.

That assumption is heavy. And it is not true.

Just because someone has been trained in an area does not mean their life always reflects it perfectly. It does not mean they do not struggle. It does not mean they do not have days where the tools they teach feel harder to access.

I am a life coach, and there are days I need someone to remind me of the very things I remind others of.

Slow down. Breathe. You are not failing. This season is asking something different of you.

Some days I know what to do, but I do not have the energy to do it well. Some days I sit in the tension of knowing better and still struggling anyway. Some days I feel the weight of being the one others lean on while quietly wishing someone would lean on me.

And that is humbling.

Why I Became a Life Coach in the First Place

I did not become a life coach because I figured life out.

I became one because I know what it feels like to lose your footing and quietly search for it again. Because I know what it feels like to function on the outside while unraveling on the inside. Because I know how lonely it can feel to be the strong one while secretly needing support yourself.

I coach from lived experience, not from a pedestal.

Even coaches need encouragement. Even those who guide others sometimes need to be guided. There is no shame in that, even when your role is to help others find clarity.

Growth Is Not a Straight Line

Life does not move in straight lines. Healing does not either.

Growth is not a constant climb forward. Sometimes it is two steps forward, three steps back, and a long pause where you have to catch your breath and remind yourself who you are again.

Those pauses do not erase the work you have done. They do not mean you are starting over. They do not mean you failed to learn the lesson the first time.

They mean life changed.

And when life changes, we often need to re ground ourselves. Not because we are weak, but because we are human.

A Gentle Reminder for You and for Me

If you are reading this and being hard on yourself for needing support, I want you to hear this clearly.

Needing help does not make you weak. Feeling unsteady does not cancel your progress. Taking a step back does not mean you are failing.

It means you are adjusting.

It means you are listening to what this season is asking of you.

Today, I am saying this out loud not as a coach with answers, but as a woman who is still learning, still growing, and still finding her footing in the middle of change.

If you are there too, you are not alone.

Not even close.